I now pronounce you…
Mar 13th, 2009 by Angele
This life event deserves special attention. It is a big step towards another form of relationship. This is the divorce ceremony! Yeah, you read it right! Nowadays, divorce ceremonies conducted by a minister are becoming quite popular especially in countries like the US. A divorce ceremony isn’t legal but according to involved parties, it’s a spiritual way for couples to end their relationship with forgiveness and healing.
As it stands now, there really is no such thing as a definitive end of a marriage, the way there is a definitive beginning of one. There is no defining moment after which both of the spouses can feel truly free from each other and no longer married; Our society simply expect couples to find their own way of emotionally ending their marriages and of somehow moving on as single people again. We expect a divorcing couple to feel closure from a static piece of court ordered paper alone.
Out of respect for how hard it can be, many marriage counselors have agreed that adopting a divorce ceremony can help divorcing couples achieve closure. The ceremony would mainly be a private ceremony meant only to dissolve a marriage in a more immediate and emotionally concrete way, so as not to prolong or confuse the matter unnecessarily as is often currently the case. Now of course, if the divorcing couple wishes to plan a joyful ceremony where families and friends could attend, this is up to them! And questions about children and division of property are often discussed in private.
Now just as we have beautiful wedding vows, we also have divorce vows. Let me give you a few examples:
Minister: Do you, ****, promise to honor yourself and your independence, to live life to the fullest without sorrow or hardship, to live life and love life without him/her?
Ex-spouse to be: I do…
~*~
Minister: Do you, ****, consent to the dissolution of your marriage to ****, with the full understanding that the swearing of this statement will result in a final divorce?
Ex-spouse to be: I do.
~*~
Minister: With the swearing of these statements, the marriage of **** and **** is now dissolved. And I pronounce you… divorced.
Now let’s head to the divorce party and have a toast to celebrate! Yayyy!!!
LOL!
Your last line … ;p
To Kyels,
After the ceremony, time to partyyy! But sshhh… can’t say it loud!
Oh and do you know there are divorce planners who actually plan divorce parties that include party themes, gifts, food and drinks…etc! Amazing, huh?
See this: http://www.divorcepartyplanner.com/
Makes you wonder why people get married in the first place…
lol! i bet with all these, we will soon get the phenomenon of stressed future ex-wives, planning their divorce ceremony, choosing their dresses etc, like future brides do!
To The Moody Minstrel,
People get married thinking their marriage will last forever but sometimes things happened… Lack of commitment, poor communication, infidelity, falling out of love… Before they know it, the couple is breaking up and filing for divorce. Sad isn’t it?
But then again, it’s reassuring to know there are couples that actually last forever! Despite the daily problems (let’s be realistic, we’re not living in a happily ever after world), a lot of couples manage to overcome whatever difficulties they have and make things right.
To Morinn,
No wonder a new job has been created! Divorce planner!
Scenario:
X : What do you do in life?
Y: I plan divorce ceremonies and breaking-up parties!
*cough* o_O
divorce planner? LOL!!
To _butt,
Yeahh!! A new career to embrace! *lol*